My Muslim Sister

I Appeal To Your Sense Of Shame
My Muslim Sister...
Will You Not Respond?
Nawaal Bint Abdullah


The Requirements Of Women's Hijaab In Accordance With The Qur'aan, The Authentic Sunnah, And The Practice Of The Pious Predecessors


As-Salaamu 'Alaikum

Verily the praise and thanks is due to Allah. We offer to Him all praise and gratitude, and we seek His

assistance and forgiveness. We seek refuge in Allah from the evil of our souls and the wickedness of our

deeds. Whoever Allah guides there is none who can lead him astray and whosoever Allah misguides there

are none who can bring him to the path. I bear witness that there is nothing truly worthy of worship except

Allah and that Muhammad is His slave servant and Messenger. May Allah send his salaat and salaam upon

His Prophet Muhammad, his family, companions, and all those who follow them in righteousness until the

Day of Resurrection. Ameen

We thought it prudent to preface the translation of this brief work by our sister Nawaal Bint Abdullah (may

Allah preserve her) with a few words about the background and context of the booklet. This is because the

author is describing a common phenomenon in Muslim countries, especially in the Arabian Gulf region. It is

an appeal that is full of emotion and concern and even a bit of outrage that may not be readily understood by

not only non-Muslims but Muslims living in other parts of the world. Her outrage may seem strange to many

in places where what she is complaining of and describes commonly occurs and largely goes unnoticed.

Such behavior however, has far more of an impact where the Islamic environment or local culture is

relatively more conservative than in most places.

The author's evident dismay and distress at what would seem a relatively mild lack of adherence may

indeed appear extreme to those outside her context. Indeed we realize that perhaps most Muslim women

would find absolutely nothing wrong with what she describes and may even view some women whom she

even points to who wear niqaab in their midst as quite conservative considering that most other women in

their locale may not consider a face veil at all necessary as opposed to the majority view in Saudi Arabia

from where the author wrote. Many commonly wear merely a scarf and slacks, dresses that do not reach the

ankles, no abaayah (A lightweight overgarment worn by Muslim women that covers the dress underneath. It

is commonly black in Gulf countries) or jibaab (see the Appendix: Requirements of Women's Hijaab) some

make-up, perfume, or maybe nothing close to Islamic hijaab and often interact with members of the opposite


What should be considered is if the author is comparing the state of affairs to the actual requirements of

Islamic Hijaab, and not merely local culture, and if those requirements are being adhered to or not by the

majority. If they are not, what does that tell us about the state of the ummah and its women as a whole?

We must also mention that in a relatively conservative Islamic environment, men often become far more

sensitive to the attractions of women and the sight of merely a woman's hands or even feet, much less a

pretty face, can be enough to cause a great trial upon them! The great Imaam, Muhammad Idrees Shaafi

once remarked that he was in the marketplace when he happened to see a woman's ankle and thought he

would lose half of his knowledge! Imagine the impact on such people of the satellite dish, videos, magazines

and other media where the beauty of women is highlighted and exploited!

Sister Nawaal fervently points to the dangers and the negative influence of western culture and moral values

upon the habits and thought processes of many Muslim women. She asserts that such influence is neither

passive nor haphazard and that it is a serious and substantial threat not just to Islamic values but to

livelihood and values once held precious by mankind as a whole. Can it not be so when the evidence of

reality is before our eyes! Could a clear-thinking believer see otherwise? Ours is a world where pornography

is a multi-billion dollar industry. Sexual practices of all types are commonly and openly broadcast on

television. Men and women speak openly on talk shows and other venues of the most graphic and lurid

details of their sexual exploits, and women suffer more physical and sexual abuse than any other group.

Even the president of the most revered nation on the earth has his most illicit sexual encounters graphically

described for the world to read.

Those living in Islamic environments are in stark contrast to those (including Muslims) living in places where

women are almost always uncovered and beautified and often practically naked in public places. The latter

are usually far less sensitive and even rarely shocked at anything. Western civilization is built upon the

appreciation of the naked form in art and in life. (Even ancient eastern cultures heavily emphasized sexuality

such as the Indian Karma Sutra)

It is well known that in the west, today's "modern and progressive" women are encouraged to be as

unashamed of their bodies as possible and to never allow themselves to be restricted. Every day life is full of

images and interaction between the sexes involving every type of woman. Sexual openness is considered

healthy while anything limiting that is considered repressive and backward. How must such a woman like the

author feel in light of this reality? Additionally, she is seeing these things in the Heartland of Islam where

there is relatively easy access to many scholars whom one can listen to and speak with (women included) in

person or by phone, through audio tapes, or even the radio and television. Not to mention the treasure trove

of good Islamic books, the presence of institutions of learning and memorizing the Qur'aan and hadeeth for

women. On top of all that she sees it among women whose native tongue is Arabic and whose heritage is

Islam and should therefore have little excuse to be uninformed.

There is a hadeeth that goes: This world is like a prison to the believer but it is the paradise of the

disbeliever. [Muslim, At-Tirmidhi, Ibn Maajah, Ahmed & others] Our sister Nawaal, and many other men and

women like her, face a seemingly unwinnable battle to stem the tide of western influence in Islamic areas.

They are painted as fanatics and regressive while those who advocate relaxation of Islamic shari'ah are

deemed reasonable and progressive, especially with regards to women, and their usual first target is

observance of Islamic hijaab.

We ask Allah to reward the author and we are grateful to her for granting permission to translate and publish

her work in English. We have attempted to do justice to her Arabic style though we have always found this

almost unrealistic due to the vast difference between Arabic and English prose. In this regard my greatest

thanks goes to Mr. Ahmed Ezzat whose revision of the translation was invaluable. We hope to have

successfully overcome most of the difficulties of translating such a work like this and pray that we are

successful in conveying the meaning of this heartfelt message from a member our most precious and

respected Islamic sisterhood to her sisters in faith.

Abdul-Qaadir Abdul-Khaaliq


What Is Hayaa?

Hayaa' (modesty and a sense of shame) is a fundamental characteristic of the noble and a sign of high

standards and eemaan. Among the best of what has been said of it is that, "It is a fine sensitivity and

delicate feeling that is evident in the eye and that affects the features. Whoever has been forbidden from it

has been forbidden from all good and whoever has been crowned with it has obtained honor and nobility

and been bestowed with complete good.' [Mawaarid Ath-Thamaan Li-Duroos Az-Zamaan - Abdul-Azeez As-

Salamaan, Vol. 3 pg. 367] How could it be otherwise when the best of the creation of Allah, sallallahu 'alaihi

wa sallam, stated: Al-Hayaa' khairun kulluh (Hayaa' is all good) [Muslim]?

This hayaa' has become feeble and withdrawn. Moreover, destructive concepts and designs aimed at us

from the enemies of Allah and (enemies of) the Muslim woman, eat away at its body until it has deteriorated

and weakened to the point that the caller [to hayaa'] has little affect upon many Muslim women when they

are called to it.

If we look at the profound state of affairs in which the Muslim woman lives and her digression behind

western trends and continuous imitation of them until if they enter the lizard's hole she would enter along

with them, we see a strong testimony of the weakness of deen and hayaa' in such a Muslim woman. This is

why I have strived, asking the Most High and Able Protector for assistance and sincerity, to write a few

words aimed at my Muslim sisters that I hope will affect and reverberate upon their souls.

Why I Write

My beloved sister, the words I write are from a heart full of sorrow and pain at the sorry condition of so many

Muslim women today. We see the Muslim woman who, dressed in clothing that is covering yet nakedness,

comes out to display her charms and seduces the slaves of Allah with the filthiest of weapons - the weapon

of enticement and allurement that she has learned of the ways and means of seduction. For you find this

seduction in the home and in the street and in speech and in movement. Seduction in clothing and

beautification, in walking and sitting and in the glance. It is really a serious matter that is disgraceful and that

dismembers the heart with grief when we live in a reality where so many Muslim women are divested of

hayaa'. The deen and the Qur'aan are forgotten and practices and morals are disavowed...and there is no

ability or power except from Allah!

Dear sister, this address is from my humble and insufficient pen and lined by my injured inner being and it is

naught but a cry from one warning and cautioning you, my dear sister. They are but words which I can only

hope find your ears and by which the door of your heart may be reached and they find space, an entrance

and acceptance and then application.

These words emanate from a heart that has love, friendship and sincere advice to you. Advice from a sister

who has been caring much for her sister who she sees is heading down the road of misguidance upon which

she is practically swept away. She has been deviated and is falling into the trap and snare that was

prepared for her by the Zionist and she is negligent and doesn't know. How is it that I don't take hold of her

hand and advise her and direct her or try to open her eyes to the plots and designs around her?

My deserving sister, my words are not new, yet they are a reminder for you so that perhaps Allah would

cause you to benefit by them and make them flow over your heart with coolness and tranquility. Would that

they have a great influence upon you, in shaa Allah. I appeal to you my beloved sister, to your sense of

religion, your pure nature which Allah has created you upon, and your sense of modesty (hayaa'), and your

fear of Allah the Most High and Able. Do you not listen at all to the call of your sincere sister who so cares

for you?

Know my dear sister, that you and I and every Muslim woman, are standing on a port among the harbors of

Islam. Namely, the Muslim family and the education of the children in the manner loved and accepted by

Allah. Its pillar and foundation is obedience to Allah and following His Messenger (sallallahu 'alaihi wa

sallam) and searching for what pleases Allah to acquire the priceless commodity that all of us hope for - Al-


It is for this, my Muslim sister, that when the scheming enemies of Islam saw the position of the Muslim

woman and the powerful influence she had amongst those with whom she lives as the teacher and

developer of the coming generations and due to her would the upbringing be either solid or corrupted, they

turned their focus on us. They focus on us, we Muslim women, to destroy our morals and take away our

deen and hayaa' toward which we were naturally disposed and which we were commanded to stick to, until

the morals of our sons, the men of the future and the pillars of the Ummah, get corrupted. They would

destroy these morals which support the Ummah in its progress and understanding and (men) upon whom its

honor depends after Allah. If this pillar is made defective or is destroyed and this strong nature of the

Ummah is weakened, then what will become of its future? This is exactly what the enemies of Allah want.

Do You Not Understand?

Do you know how they [i.e. the enemies of Islam - trans.] are able to infiltrate and influence us through

means that are enticing and outwardly innocent but internally filthy? It is through the method of giving honeycovered

poison presented through advertising and glittering and captivating addresses. It is their saying

terms like, "Move with the times", "civilization", and "modernization". It is done through lowly magazines,

seductive fashions, and saucy stories and tales. It is done through television series', films, songs and other

means. Will you look to Allah my sister? Will you not return to your Rabb and throw the plots of your

enemies back on their throats and reject their concepts and misleading titles? Will you say with the strength

and honor of a Muslim 'I do not accept other than the order of Allah and the order of His Prophet!'?

My dear sister: What your enemy wants of you is indeed precious and costly. It is no simple matter for you.

They want to ruin your deen, your moral character, your virtue and your hayaa in which you derive pride and

honor. They want for you to be the despicable, reprehensible, and neglected of the society, as is the

condition of their womenfolk. They call for the throwing off of the hijaab and to nudity and exposing yourself

and they say to you:

Tear to pieces your covering O daughter of Islam Tear it up and burn it without hesitation

For truly it is a sham protector!

They weave conspiracy after conspiracy and devise plots and take up ambush positions all around us. They

initiate dirty and poisonous activities such as the so-called "liberation movement", and "equality", and the

impetus of that is for the destruction of your moral character and mine, as well as the moral character of all

other Muslim women. These are all means and weapons they can use to ruin this true deen. This will occur

if we answer their cunning calls and filthy invitations. Let us confront them and stand as one like a towering

mountain before this destructive western whirlwind current in aid of this true deen and the preservation of

Islam, morality and al-hayaa. Let us be a strong hand cuffing with its grip, hijaab, decency and morality the

face of all who would violate any of its parts or who attempts to approach it and harm it.

You and I and every Muslim woman must say to the enemies of Allah what Aisha At-Taymuriyyah said:

With a hand of decency I defend the honor of my hijaab

And by my modesty I have risen above my contemporaries

And by brilliant and gifted thought And critical disposition have my good manners been perfected Nothing

has harmed me of my culture and good learning

Except that I am best of those wise

Nothing has prevented us from rising

Except letting down the head cover from our locks and the covering of our faces

My beloved sister, what really cuts into my soul and deprives me of rest is to see a young Muslimah who

believes in Allah as her Rabb, Islam as her deen and in Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) as a

messenger and prophet, roaming the streets, roads, shopping centers, and other public places where one

finds the good and the evil, the virtuous and the wicked, those of pure heart and those whose hearts are

diseased who follow their sexual weakness and pursue young females. These young women go out

beautified or wearing hijaab of the type that is itself such an adornment that by its appearance and style

shoots like an arrow of attraction in the lustful heart of such a man. He will be tempted and his heart

captured by her. Will Allah be pleased, I ask you by Allah, with the act of this young woman while He is the

one who says to her and those like her among women: Do not make a display like the display of those

previous to Islam (in ignorance). [Al-Ahzaab 33] Or will He be pleased with her deen, her modesty, her

character as she was taught and raised on?!

Dear sister, don't you realize that among the signs of weak eemaan in a Muslim woman and the beginning of

her defeat and the deprival of her honor and virtue is when she forsakes or abandons her deen and her

morals? Al-Hayaa’ is considered part of her nature. A Muslim lady has always been the parable of hayaa'. A

famous proverb says:

The highest modesty is that of the virgin in her quarters.

The disappearance of al-hayaa’ in a woman is a shortcoming in her eemaan and a departure from her

nature. Have you comprehended that!?

By Allah that there is no good in life nor in the world when hayaa has vanished

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