The Evils of the Tongue 4

The Evils of the Tongue 4

 

Lying is Another Evil of the Tongue

Allah, the Sublime, said:

“Indeed those who fabricate Lies upon Allah, are only those who disbelieve in His signs, and it is they who are truly liars.” [An-Nahl : 105]

Allah, the Almighty said:

“A painful torment is theirs because they used to be liars” [Al-Baqarah 2:10]

Ibn Mas‘oud, may Allah be pleased with him, said that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

“Truth guides to righteousness, and righteousness leads to Janaah and indeed a person would involve in truth until he is written with Allah as truthful. And lying guides to immorality which guide to Jahannam, and a person would lie until he is written with Allah as a liar.” [Bukhari & Muslim]

From among the characteristic of a hypocrite, described to us by the Prophet (peace be upon him), is that:

“ when he speaks he lies’: [Bukhari & Muslim]

Hypocrites are the worst of people, because of their evil deeds which involve deception. Consequently, their punishment would be the most severe on the Day of Judgment. So, brothers and sisters, avoid lying at all cost, so as to save yourself from being even considered to be associated with the worst of mankind.

‘Aaishah, informing us about the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

“If he (peace be upon him) finds anyone from his family lying, he would turn away from that person until he/she repents.” [Ahmad and Al-Haakim]

 

Situations in which lying is allowed:

A person is only allowed to lie if it involves the following:

- Making peace between two Muslims.

- Lying to the enemy in battle to protect other Muslims.

- The lying of a man to his wife and she to her husband (to keep their relationship harmonious). However, this should not be understood to mean cases of clear lies. Rather, it is the extolling of the virtues of each other, by using pleasant words, although it contains exaggeration. And Allah knows best.

All of the above are established in the following Hadeeth of the Prophet of Allah (peace be upon him):

“I do no consider it lying: A man who makes peace between other men, a man who speaks in battle, a man speaking to his wife, or a wife speaking to her husband.” [Abu Dawood]

 

Incidents of lying that are not considered by people as lies:

There are many blatant cases of lying, although people do not consider them to be such:

1. Calling a child for something and there is nothing to give him. ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Aamir said:

“The Messenger of Allah came to our house while I was a boy, so he ‘Abdullaah said: ‘I left to go and play. My mother said ‘Come ‘Abdullaah for me to give you (something).’ The Messenger (peace be upon him) said: ‘What will you give to him?’ She said ‘I will give him a date.’ He (Abdullaah) said, that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: ‘If you did not have anything to give to him, a lie would have been written against you.’” [Abu Dawood & Ahmad]

Parents, take heed! Since we want to raise our children upon Islam, and to train them to be truthful, we must beware of lying to them, because that will teach them to lie.

It should be noted that this incident was related by someone who was young when it happened to him. So, children take note of incidents much more than we realize. Therefore, we must not assume that we are playing around and trying to make fun with them, by fooling them.

2. Speaking about everything we hear. The Messenger (peace be upon him) said:

“It is enough (to make) a man a liar if he speak everything he hears.” [Abu Dawood & Al-Haakim]

A person might transfer something that was not verified saying: ‘This is what I heard, and I did not add anything to it’. So what would be his end, if what he heard was slander or vilifying of a pious person?

3. Lying to make others laugh. The Messenger said:

“Woe to him who speak and lie so that he can makes people laugh - woe to him, woe to him.” [Ahmad, Abu Dawood & others]

 

Tale Carrying (scandal) or Strife-making.

Allah, the Most High said:

“And obey not everyone who swear much and is considered worthless, a slanderer going about scandal-mongering, hinderer of good, transgressor, sinful...” [Al-Qalam 68:10-12]

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:

 “The tale-carrier (scandal mongerer) would not enter Al-Jannah.” [Bukhari & Muslim]

The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

 “Do you know what is scandaling (carrying tales)? It is transferring of the speech of someone to another person to cause trouble between them.” [Al-Bukhari in Adab Al-Mufrad]

However, it should be noted that it is not scandaling if a man informs his brother what was said about him, if there would be some benefit from this. Ibn Mas”oud said:

The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) divided something, so a man from the Ansaar said: ‘By Allah! He (i.e. the Prophet) did not do that seeking the pleasure of Allah (implying that it was unfairly done);’ so I came to the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) and informed him, immediately his face reddened and he said: “Allah’s Mercy be with Moosaa, he was tested with more than this and was patient.”[Al-Bukhari]

How to Treat the Carrier of Tales

One must verify the tales or stories brought by the carrier of tales, lest he act upon his words, thus harming someone who is innocent. Allah, the Most High, said:

“O you who believe. If a rebellious evil person come to you with a news, verify it - lest you harm a people to ignorance, sad afterwards you become regretful of what you did. “ [Al-Hujuraat 43:6]

The tale carrier should be advised, admonished, and even prevented from doing such an evil action. One should also express his hate for tale carrying, by desisting from listening to such a person. In addition to the above, one should not perpetrate the evil of the tale carrier, by entertaining bad thoughts about his brother, or disclosing what was said by the tale carrier.

 

It is Prohibited to Deceive a Muslim who is Seeking Sincere Advice.

The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

“...and whoever directs his brother in an affair; but knows that the right guidance is other than that, has deceived him.” [Abu Dawood & Haakim]

Generally, all persons who are directly or indirectly responsible for leading and educating the Muslims, individually (i.e. like one’s wife, children, relatives, etc.) or collectively (their Jama‘ah i.e. like Masjids, communities, organizations, etc.) should pay careful attention to this Hadeeth and its implications. This is because they are the ones who are most likely to find themselves involved in this serious sin of injustice and misguidance of their brothers and sisters. This often occurs when such educators/leaders knowing the truth in a given issue or affair, as established from the Qur’aan and the authentic Sunnah, deliberately gives a fatwaa, or promote directly or indirectly, the wrong opinion or version of that particular issue. The motivating factors for such deliberate deception of his fellow Muslim/s, who vested their trust in him to lead and guide them correctly, is one or more of the following:

(a) Itibaa’-ul-Hawaa (i.e. Following their personal prejudices/preferences/tastes/desires, etc.)

(b) Seeking to acquire or maintain a position of office (either because of fame or money)

(c) Political motives (partisanship i.e. to support the operative view of a particular organization because it appeals to its adherents, or because it appeals to the masses).

This type of deception can also result because of material benefits. For example, someone seeks the advice of his brother in relation to a particular business venture, but his brother likes the idea himself, and then Shaitaan influences him to reserve the business for himself, thus he responds to the seeker of the advice against getting into the business, explaining that there is little or no benefit in it. It can also be that he deceives him because he is envious of his brother, and so he withholds what he knows from him.

 

The Prohibition of Proposing to a Woman who is Already Engaged.

The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

“No one should propose (to marry a woman) if his brother already proposed.” [An-Nasaa`i]

He (peace be upon him) also said:

“The believer is the brother of a believer, so it is not allowed to undercut his brother in business and he does not propose (to the same woman) to whom his brother has already proposed, until the proposal of his brother is canceled.” [Muslim]

 

Indulging in Defaming a Muslim.

The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

Ribaa (interest) is divided into seventy two categories, the least is (as evil as) the like of a man who comes (fornicating) with his mother; and the worst form of ribaa is (the like) of a man who deliberates in the honor of his brother. “ [At-Tabaraanee].

 

The Two Faced Person

The two-faced person is someone who moves frequently between two persons, who are enemies of one another, and speaks to each one of them with words of praise for each one of them, and speaks against the other’s enemy.

This is also manifested by a person who praises another person on one occasion (like in his presence), and on another, debases him. This is one of the signs of hypocrisy.

It was said to Ibn ‘Umar, may Allah be pleased with both of them, that when we are amongst our leaders, we speak highly of them. However, when we leave them, we would say otherwise (i.e. speak badly of them). Ibn ‘Umar said (of that attitude): “We (the Sahabahs) used to regard that attitude as hypocrisy during the time of the Prophet (peace be upon him).” [Ibn Abi Duniya Kitaabl Gheeba wan-Nameemah]

Transferring the speech of each person to the other is also described as two-tongued. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

“The most evil of people is the two faced person who come to these with one face and goes to those with another.” [Abu Dawood]

He (peace be upon him) also said:

“Who is two faced in this world will have two tongues of fire on the Day of Judgment.” [Abu Dawood]

However, if someone enters upon both of them, and agrees with what is truthful from each side without trying to find favor with either one, but his desire is to be just and to try to settle their differences, then this is not two-faced nor hypocritical. On the contrary, this is a noble act.

 

Mockery, Sarcasm and Debasing Muslims.

It is evil enough for a Muslim to misuse his tongue, by indulging in mockery, sarcasm, debasing Muslims, scoffing etc. Mockery is to highlight someone’s weaknesses and faults, in such a way that it is laughed at. This could either be by statement, or action. These and other related characteristics, like irony, taunting, scoffing, etc. are all prohibited in Islam.

Allah, the Glorious said:

“O you who believe! Let not a group mock at another group, it may be that the latter is better than the former, nor let some women mock at other women, it maybe that the latter are better than the former... “ [Al-Hujuraat 43:11]

This is because, in most cases, it is used to debase the person that is mocked at. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

“...It is only evil that causes a man to debase his Muslim brother...” [Muslim]

 

Disclosing and Spreading of Secrets.

Secrets are meant to be kept. We are forbidden from disclosing and spreading the secrets of people. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

“If someone confided something (to another person), then it is a trust.’ [Abu Dawood, Ahmad and others].

So, spreading of secrets would thereafter be faithlessness, or betrayal of a trust. If there is harm resulting from this, then this is Haraam. If there is no harm, then it is blameworthy because Allah, the Most High said:

“Fulfill your trusts...” [Al-Israa 17:34]

Breaking a trust is a sign of Hypocrisy. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

“The signs of hypocrisy are four...[from among them is] if he is entrusted he breaks it...” [Bukhari and Muslim].

 

It is Prohibited to Remind Others of One’s Generosity.

Allah, the Sublime said:

“O you who believer do not render vain your charity (sadaqah) by reminders of your generosity or by injury...” [Al-Baqarah 2:264]

Allah, the Almighty, also said:

“Those who spend their wealth in the Cause of Allah, and do not follow up their gifts with reminders of their generosity or with injury, their reward is with their lord...” [Al-Baqarah 2:262]

Abu Dhar said that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

“Allah will not speak to three (groups) of people on the Day of Judgment, nor look at them, nor purify them, and they will have a severe torment.” He (Abu Dhar) said: “The Messenger of Allah said this thrice.” Abu Dhar said: “They have failed and are losers, who are they, O Messenger of Allah?” He (peace be upon him) said: “Al-Musbil (one who wears his lower garment below his ankles), the one who reminds (the person he gave to) of his generosity…” [Muslim]

The proper attitude is described by Allah, the Wise:

“Kind words and forgiving of faults are better than Sadaqah (charity) followed by injury...” [Al-Baqarah 2: 263]



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